www.rebeccalowrie.com
sacred sexual expansion and exploration...
sacred sexual expansion and exploration...
 | |  | |  | |  | |  | |  | |  |
Sacred Relationship…
He was my daughter’s guitar teacher and a lot younger than me. He was also charming, interesting,
sweet and very sexy. He chatted to me every week while she had her drum lesson and eventually
asked if he could come for a massage for his sore neck and shoulders. ‘Sure,’ I said, not having any
idea that there was more to it, even though I’d started caring a bit more about what I wore on lesson
days.
I’d always suspected that loving, healing, nourishing, sexy, deeply intimate relationships were
possible. Instinctively I knew that ‘relationship’ had the potential to be a powerful container for divine
alchemy – the transformation of ‘all that doesn’t serve you’ into something new, exquisite and
sacred.
What makes our relationship great – what makes it work? Why, after four years together, do we still
feel the pleasure, joy and deliciousness that we felt at the beginning? What is essential for Sacred
Relationship?
Here are some of the key elements that keep our sacred relationship working:
Consciousness – our relationship is valuable and precious to us. We are aware of what we’re
creating, for the present moment and for the future. We consciously nurture and feed our
relationship, keeping it vibrant, healthy, alive and full of love.
Communication – Clear, open, honest communication is vital in any relationship. Don’t expect the
other to read your mind. We voice things as they come up, no matter how small they might seem, to
keep the air clear. We speak our truth and listen with our full attention. We sometimes hear things
through the filter of our ‘stuff’ so if in doubt, we take time to clarify what’s been said.
Owning our ‘stuff’ – so often problems that occur in a relationship happen because we act or react
to a situation based on our experiences of the past. We want to blame someone else, not take
responsibility for ourselves, our journeys, our vulnerability. Being clear about what is ‘my stuff’ and
what is ‘your stuff’ can sometimes feel edgy but is the only way to be in the present, not in the past
with each other.
Patience and compassion – with ourselves and each other.
Commitment – taking time to consciously connect with each other, no matter how brief, on a daily
basis. Quality not quantity is important here.
Willingness – to be vulnerable, to spend time, to commit to a higher quality of relationship, to listen
to each other, to transform, to grow, to try something new if the old no longer serves you, to move
through fear, to stand in the fiery furnaces of ‘relationship’ and let it transform you.
Opening – to the beautiful flow of love, sex and divinity, allowing them to blend together so that each
fuels and nourishes the other.
Being present.
Courage.
Tantra has taught me all of these things. It has made my Sacred Relationship with Todd possible
and is what keeps it dynamic and flourishing. It would be an honour to share some of this with you
and your Beloved at our Deepening into Love weekend.
Read the other articles in this series...
He was my daughter’s guitar teacher and a lot younger than me. He was also charming, interesting,
sweet and very sexy. He chatted to me every week while she had her drum lesson and eventually
asked if he could come for a massage for his sore neck and shoulders. ‘Sure,’ I said, not having any
idea that there was more to it, even though I’d started caring a bit more about what I wore on lesson
days.
I’d always suspected that loving, healing, nourishing, sexy, deeply intimate relationships were
possible. Instinctively I knew that ‘relationship’ had the potential to be a powerful container for divine
alchemy – the transformation of ‘all that doesn’t serve you’ into something new, exquisite and
sacred.
What makes our relationship great – what makes it work? Why, after four years together, do we still
feel the pleasure, joy and deliciousness that we felt at the beginning? What is essential for Sacred
Relationship?
Here are some of the key elements that keep our sacred relationship working:
Consciousness – our relationship is valuable and precious to us. We are aware of what we’re
creating, for the present moment and for the future. We consciously nurture and feed our
relationship, keeping it vibrant, healthy, alive and full of love.
Communication – Clear, open, honest communication is vital in any relationship. Don’t expect the
other to read your mind. We voice things as they come up, no matter how small they might seem, to
keep the air clear. We speak our truth and listen with our full attention. We sometimes hear things
through the filter of our ‘stuff’ so if in doubt, we take time to clarify what’s been said.
Owning our ‘stuff’ – so often problems that occur in a relationship happen because we act or react
to a situation based on our experiences of the past. We want to blame someone else, not take
responsibility for ourselves, our journeys, our vulnerability. Being clear about what is ‘my stuff’ and
what is ‘your stuff’ can sometimes feel edgy but is the only way to be in the present, not in the past
with each other.
Patience and compassion – with ourselves and each other.
Commitment – taking time to consciously connect with each other, no matter how brief, on a daily
basis. Quality not quantity is important here.
Willingness – to be vulnerable, to spend time, to commit to a higher quality of relationship, to listen
to each other, to transform, to grow, to try something new if the old no longer serves you, to move
through fear, to stand in the fiery furnaces of ‘relationship’ and let it transform you.
Opening – to the beautiful flow of love, sex and divinity, allowing them to blend together so that each
fuels and nourishes the other.
Being present.
Courage.
Tantra has taught me all of these things. It has made my Sacred Relationship with Todd possible
and is what keeps it dynamic and flourishing. It would be an honour to share some of this with you
and your Beloved at our Deepening into Love weekend.
Read the other articles in this series...
 | |  | |  | |  | |  | |  | |  | |  | |  | |  | |  |
Workshops for 2012
Deepening into Love for couples and lovers
18 & 19 February
Treat yourselves to a luxurious weekend of love,
intimacy and mind-blowing sensuality...
Find out more...
Sexual Alchemy a series of four workshops
exploring various aspects of sexuality. The four
workshops are...
Pleasure 21 & 22 April
Intimacy 16 & 17 June
Transformation 15 & 16 Sept
Embodiment 17 & 18 Nov
Practitioner Training Level I 24-27 May
Whether you’re already working in the sexual
arena or just testing the waters, this unique, four
day course is for you...
Find out more...
Deepening into Love for couples and lovers
18 & 19 February
Treat yourselves to a luxurious weekend of love,
intimacy and mind-blowing sensuality...
Find out more...
Sexual Alchemy a series of four workshops
exploring various aspects of sexuality. The four
workshops are...
Pleasure 21 & 22 April
Intimacy 16 & 17 June
Transformation 15 & 16 Sept
Embodiment 17 & 18 Nov
Practitioner Training Level I 24-27 May
Whether you’re already working in the sexual
arena or just testing the waters, this unique, four
day course is for you...
Find out more...
 |  |  |  |