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Being present…
It happened in a phone shop on a normal high street in north London. I was waiting for my phone to be
returned when the young man working in the shop asked me what I did for a living. I never know quite
how to answer that question and various answers usually pop out of my mouth. ‘I teach sacred
sexuality’, I told him. ‘Oh,’ he said. I could almost hear the cogs of his brain turning. ‘So what could
you teach me?’ he asked. Feeling it to be a genuine request, I asked him if he wanted to learn how to
have the most mind-blowing sex ever. ‘Of course!’ he said, laughing a little nervously. Several other
assistants and a customer were now paying attention. ‘Come here,’ I said. He came and stood in
front of me, less than a foot away. ‘Relax… breathe… now bring yourself fully into this moment and
look into my eyes’. He did as I instructed and after about 5 seconds exclaimed, ‘Wow, ohmygod, what
did you just do? That was amazing! AMAZING!’ He was ecstatic. All I did was request his full presence
and offer him mine back. It’s that simple really. He was still muttering happily to himself when I left.
Being present is one of the most important, useful, joyful, mind-blowing things I’ve learned from my
journey through tantra. Being really present in each and every moment is all there really is and yet we
usually have our attention in the past or future.
Most of us are taught at a very early age how to distract ourselves. A friend once told me about a trip
to a funfair where each time she got on a ride, her friend would say to her, ‘What are we going on
next?’ She didn’t get to enjoy the ride she was actually on because her attention was constantly
being drawn to the future. We all do this in one way or another. We reminisce about the past or worry
about tomorrow, but rarely take time to just be where we are.
When we get really, truly present, the world changes completely! When I allow myself to be fully
present with my partner, he is new and different in each and every moment! What a delight! Our
relationship, our love making never gets old or stale because all the old moments are gone, dead.
Here we are in this brand new moment that didn’t exist before, oh, and here’s another one. Who is
this amazing man here with me right now, and right now and right now? It’s so exciting! Every time
we touch, kiss, caress is like the first time!
Try this at home: (either with your Beloved or as a solo practice looking into your own eyes in a
mirror) Sit quietly with your Beloved and softly, gently, look into each other’s eyes. Let your thoughts
subside and allow yourself to be fully present with whatever ‘is’ in that moment and each new
moment as it unfolds. Bring your awareness to your heart and allow love to flow – in and out. Behold
your Beloved as they are in this instant. In this shared space, everything is fresh and new and
anything is possible. In the unpredictability of each second, the magnitude of each breath, and the
vitality of each moment, your passion for each other can be constantly rediscovered. If you regularly
take the time to be present with yourself and with your Beloved, your ever-evolving selves will fill a
lifetime with love, desire and deep intimacy.
Read the other articles in this series...
It happened in a phone shop on a normal high street in north London. I was waiting for my phone to be
returned when the young man working in the shop asked me what I did for a living. I never know quite
how to answer that question and various answers usually pop out of my mouth. ‘I teach sacred
sexuality’, I told him. ‘Oh,’ he said. I could almost hear the cogs of his brain turning. ‘So what could
you teach me?’ he asked. Feeling it to be a genuine request, I asked him if he wanted to learn how to
have the most mind-blowing sex ever. ‘Of course!’ he said, laughing a little nervously. Several other
assistants and a customer were now paying attention. ‘Come here,’ I said. He came and stood in
front of me, less than a foot away. ‘Relax… breathe… now bring yourself fully into this moment and
look into my eyes’. He did as I instructed and after about 5 seconds exclaimed, ‘Wow, ohmygod, what
did you just do? That was amazing! AMAZING!’ He was ecstatic. All I did was request his full presence
and offer him mine back. It’s that simple really. He was still muttering happily to himself when I left.
Being present is one of the most important, useful, joyful, mind-blowing things I’ve learned from my
journey through tantra. Being really present in each and every moment is all there really is and yet we
usually have our attention in the past or future.
Most of us are taught at a very early age how to distract ourselves. A friend once told me about a trip
to a funfair where each time she got on a ride, her friend would say to her, ‘What are we going on
next?’ She didn’t get to enjoy the ride she was actually on because her attention was constantly
being drawn to the future. We all do this in one way or another. We reminisce about the past or worry
about tomorrow, but rarely take time to just be where we are.
When we get really, truly present, the world changes completely! When I allow myself to be fully
present with my partner, he is new and different in each and every moment! What a delight! Our
relationship, our love making never gets old or stale because all the old moments are gone, dead.
Here we are in this brand new moment that didn’t exist before, oh, and here’s another one. Who is
this amazing man here with me right now, and right now and right now? It’s so exciting! Every time
we touch, kiss, caress is like the first time!
Try this at home: (either with your Beloved or as a solo practice looking into your own eyes in a
mirror) Sit quietly with your Beloved and softly, gently, look into each other’s eyes. Let your thoughts
subside and allow yourself to be fully present with whatever ‘is’ in that moment and each new
moment as it unfolds. Bring your awareness to your heart and allow love to flow – in and out. Behold
your Beloved as they are in this instant. In this shared space, everything is fresh and new and
anything is possible. In the unpredictability of each second, the magnitude of each breath, and the
vitality of each moment, your passion for each other can be constantly rediscovered. If you regularly
take the time to be present with yourself and with your Beloved, your ever-evolving selves will fill a
lifetime with love, desire and deep intimacy.
Read the other articles in this series...
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Deepening into Love for couples and lovers
18 & 19 February
Treat yourselves to a luxurious weekend of
love, intimacy and mind-blowing sensuality...
Find out more...
Sexual Alchemy a series of four workshops
exploring various aspects of sexuality. The four
workshops are...
Pleasure 21 & 22 April
Intimacy 16 & 17 June
Transformation 15 & 16 Sept
Embodiment 17 & 18 Nov
Practitioner Training Level I 24-27 May
Whether you’re already working in the sexual
arena or just testing the waters, this unique,
four day course is for you...
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